So…the hordes are marching down the street towards your neighborhood. Sitting on the table before you is a brand new HiPoint 9mm and a box of Wolf ammo. Next to it is a brand new Glock 17 and a box of Federal ammo. You can only grab one ammo/gun combo. Which one do you grab?
Fairly confident most of you would eschew the HiPoint/Wolf combination. Yes? And why would you not choose them? Probably the most common answer would be something along the lines of “I don’t have confidence in the gun”, “The stakes are too high for me to risk relying on it”, or “I don’t trust the gun to perform as well as the other gun.” These are all perfectly valid concerns. I mean, think about it, when something as important as your safety and security is on the line don’t you want to have the most reliable, trustworthy, confidence inspiring gear on your side? of course you do. If you were jumping into the apocalypse you would judge every resource you have for it’s ability to be trusted for reliability and performance.
So…why do some folks keep people in their life who wouldn’t pass that same inspection? Do you really hold your handguns, flashlights, and pocket knives to a higher standard than you do the people you let into your life, your home, and your heart? Shouldn’t you hold the people in your life to at least the same standards as you do your pistol?
Years ago I thought about the people that I let into my life. I narrowed them down into three categories: people who made my life pleasant and added to my life, people who didnt make my life better but didnt make it worse, and people who made me unhappy and who subtracted rather than added to my life. The first two groups made the cut, the last group…not so much. And that wasn’t a terribly easy decision to make. There’s people I genuinely care about and love out there whom I just simply will not let into my life because having them involved in any facet of my life causes unhappiness. I trimmed out a bunch of ‘casual friends’, acquaintances, and even some family. What remains are people whom I actually care about, who take an interest in me and my life, I trust to varying degrees, and feel comfortable being myself around.
I’m not saying I have to ‘get something out of’ having a person involved in my life, rather I am saying if I don’t enjoy having someone in my life, or if its just a one-way street of intimacy and concern, then there’s no reason for me to let them in.
If you genuinely believe that the life we know is starting a slide into some difficult times, perhaps even really difficult times, does it make sense to expend time, emotion, privacy, trust, and concern on people who seem to only make you sorry when you talk to them? And does it make sense, in these times of…heightened concern… to have unreliable, untrustworthy, uncertain, or uncomfortable people around? No, it doesn’t. And, sadly, that means that some relationships, with people you may have known for years, need to be taken out and put down like a lame horse.
Only you know who in your circle of family and friends is adding to your life and who is taking away from it. Maybe its your cousin who wants to know everything about whats going on in your life but shuts you down when you ask about his. Or it’s the guy from work who you get along great with except for every other Friday when he calls you for a ride home because he’s drunk..again…and needs a ride. Maybe it’s your sister-in-law who seems to do nothing but tell your wife about how much of a loser you are and how she could have done better. Could be it’s even a brother or parent who, when their name shows up in your caller ID, ruins your day. Can you ‘ghost’ these people? Can you minimize their role in your life? Can you just cut them off?
The people that you’re going to ride out Ragnarok with shouldn’t just be an approximation of the random strangers you share an elevator with. There should be purpose and design in who you let into your life. And that phrase, ‘let into your life’, means exactly that. If you have someone in your life that you wouldn’t feel comfortable with driving your truck, housesitting for you, or playing with your kids when you’re not around…..then you might wanna think about whether you have the room for them, emotionally and strategically, in your life.
I own a lot of guns. A lot. And there isn’t a single one that I have acquired that I feel is a junker or a Saturday night Special or just a plain ‘ol piece of crap. I expended resources acquiring each of those guns and keeping a clunker serves my interest in no way whatsoever. I have no problem holding the people in my life to that same standard. I can be friends with lotsa people, but the list of people I take into my house and heart is extremely small. But, those people are, to me, good people worth knowing for what they add to my life. When the end of the world comes (or the end of MY world) , I’ll have no problem having them ‘on my side’ because they’ve been on my side all along…otherwise I wouldn’t be having some sort of relationship with them.
So, my advice to you is that if you really are worried about where things are going perhaps it’s time to triage through your friends/family relationships with as critical an eye as you go through the display case at the gun counter of your local shop.
Just something to think about.